What Happens Behind Closed Doors: Understanding Escort Bookings, Health, and Respect

What Happens Behind Closed Doors: Understanding Escort Bookings, Health, and Respect

Navigating intimacy services can be confusing, especially if it’s your first time or if you’re living with a disability. This guide helps you understand what to expect when booking an escort or visiting a brothel so you can feel informed, confident, and respected every step of the way.

1. Payment and Preparation

Most sex workers require payment upfront, at thebeginning of your booking.
Have your payment ready so your time isn’t wasted.

Payment options include:

• Cash: Bring the correct amount, change may not be available.
• Electronic payment: Confirm in advance if the provider accepts PayID, Beem, or     EFTPOS. Bring a charged phone and internet access.

Before booking, always read the provider’s ad carefully asit usually lists prices, available services, and payment options.

2. Health Checks and Hygiene

After payment, you can expect a routine health check. This helps protect both you and the sex worker from infections.

What’s involved:

• A gentle visual inspection of genitals, hands, and mouth for any visible signs of infection.
• If anything unusual is seen, the sex worker may ask for a second opinion or offer alternative services to reduce risk (for example, a hand job instead of oral sex).
• If service is refused due to health concerns, stay calm, you can ask for a partial refund, a social booking, or note what was seen to discuss with your GP.

Showering:
You’ll usually be asked to shower before play, even if you’ve showered beforehand. Wash your full body and use mouthwash if kissing is involved. You may also shower again at the end if time allows.

🗣️ 3. Consent and Communication

Every booking includes a conversation about consent. What’s okay, what’s not, and how you’ll communicate boundaries.

• You can say no at any time, and so can the sex worker.
• Listen carefully to your provider’s boundaries and preferences. Respecting consent ensures a better experience for both of you.
• Ignoring consent or pushing limits can result in being refused future bookings.

The golden rule: be kind, communicate clearly, and treateach other with respect.

4. Booking Etiquette: How to Arrange a Service

When booking a private escort:

1. Browse reputable websites such as:
    
   • IvySociete
    
   • Scarlet Blue
    
   • Escorts and Babes
    
   • Real Babes
    
   • Naughty Ads
2. Read the ad carefully. Check services offered, accessibility, vetting requirements, and incall/outcall options.
3. Contact them politely via text or email, using their preferred method. Include:
    
   • Your name (or pseudonym)
    
   • The service and time you’d like
    
   • Accessibility needs or support requirements
4. Be respectful, don’t send unsolicited photos or sexually explicit messages. The booking process is not sexting.

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When visiting a brothel:

• Choose one that suits your needs (many list accessibility info online).
• You’ll usually meet several workers (“introductions”) before choosing who to book.
• Clarify what’s included before payment, refunds are not always available once the booking starts.
• In Queensland, brothels now operate under standard Workplace Health and  Safety laws, following the decriminalisation of sex work in 2024.

5. Accessibility and Support Workers

Many sex workers are experienced in working with disabled clients and welcome support workers or allied health professionals during planning.
Support workers can:

• Assist with payment or physical transfers (e.g., using a hoist)
• Help ensure comfort, safety, and consent

If someone is booking on your behalf, make sure the sex worker knows — honesty avoids confusion and ensures everyone’s comfort.

6. Legal and Safety Notes (QLD)

As of 1 August 2024, Queensland decriminalised sex work.
Sex work is now treated like any other business under WHS law.
You can read more from Respect Inc.

Remember:

• Always use condoms, gloves, or dental dams for protection.
• Keep communication open and boundaries clear.
• Seek medical advice if you notice any changes to your sexual health.

7. Common Terms You Might Hear

Term & Meaning

GFE

Girlfriend Experience – intimacy, kissing, cuddling, conversation

PSE

Pornstar Experience – more explicit, fantasy-style  activities

Incall / Outcall

You visit them / they visit you

BBBJ / CBJ

Blow job without / with condom

DATY

Oral sex on a vagina

Greek

Anal sex

FSSW

Full Service Sex Worker

Pegging

Anal penetration of a man with a strap-on

Shot

Ejaculation (some bookings allow multiple)

Booking a sex worker is a personal, legal, and valid choice.
When done with communication, hygiene, and mutual respect, it can be a safe and empowering experience for everyone involved.

Be prepared, stay open-minded, and remember everyone deserves pleasure, autonomy, and access to safe, affirming sexual experiences.

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